Teacher Crushes

[rugratnat14]

I PMed ya!

[emmy the chicky]

am sad cos i will not see my TC for 6 weeks!!

[rugratnat14]

Man the summer just kills this thread.....Well I had an amazing day, pm me if you want the details as always.

Hope everyone is surviving the summer alright without their tcs.

[Ellahatesweddings]

Hey everyone :]
I know that this thread hasn't been posted in in a while...but I just found this thread today, and registered for this website JUST to share lol...lame, ik. But I'm having a really hard time with this withstanding TC of mine...*Warning. This is gonna be super long*
So, he taught a class of mine in seventh grade last year. He was in his twenties, and I don't think other girls found him as attractive as I did. (I mean he wasn't ugly or anything...idk. I found him really cute.) I had the biggest crush on him all year...but I never actually opened up to him about anything. I would just sit in class, stare at the clock (Often causing him to whisper to me, "You know, staring at the clock won't make class go any faster." and smile.), and pretended like I absolutely hated his class. He would try to get me to speak up, by asking me what I did for fun, and why I actually hated the class he taught so much.
At one point in the year, people found out that he had proposed to his girlfriend. It hurt, but I knew that if he was still completely single, it wouldn't make him any less off limits to my 12 year old self..So I ignored it.
Towards the end of the year, an announcement was made informing everyone that the faculty would be down-sizing, and some teachers would take on more than one subject (it was a very small private school, so this shouldn't have been a problem.) My TC would begin teaching another class that I would have to take in 8th grade, and I was totally psyched. I couldn't wait for next year.
A few weeks later, my parents told me that we were moving half way across the country. A whole 1,000 miles away from my TC.
Because I had been to private school most of my life, I had finished the eighth grade curriculum in seventh grade, so I was to skip to 9th this year.
I kept telling myself that I would never see my TC again, and I needed to get over him. I didn't even think he careed for me as a student or a person. It didn't matter, I told myself. For a while, it honestly worked.
But when the end of the year rolled around, I got a recommendation letter from him, stating how I was one of his best students. He said that both personally and proffesionally, he believed I was ready for high school. This was followed by a long list of other wonderful compliments...
At that point, I just didn't know what to do. Every feeling for him I had that year just came flooding back to me...and I couldn't help but realize I had never felt so strongly about anyone but him.
Now, I'm sitting half-way across the country, looking at the pictures that one of my friends found online of my TC and his, now, wife, on their wedding day. A teacher friend of his must have posted them, and I suppose they got around.
I still have these incredibly (and pathetically) strong feelings for him, and I wish I would have at least told him 'goodbye' on the last day of school.
Just thought I'd share. I'm kind of falling apart.

[inlovewithlove91]

Long time, no posting.

I just thought I'd update since school here has started back up. I was supposed to visit my school last week for Open House, but it got postponed to tonight. I did, however, get to visit my old school last week. It was awesome being back there again, though unfortunately the teachers I wanted to visit weren't there or weren't in their classrooms. I did happen to see Mr. S (my old biology teacher one) & I waved to him, though I don't think he saw. He was still looking so cute & I wanted to ask him about his baby girl, but didn't want to bother him because he had been talking to somebody at the time. My first day of school was Monday & the first thing I remember was walking into school & see our new principal, Mr. J, yelling at some student. I have really begun to hate him & I actually hated him before school even started because he took Mr. B's job & also, I just didn't want to have this guy as my principal. I can't explain it. I had been having nightmares about this principal before I even knew him, where I would be cussing him out or yelling at him & I threw a chair a couple of times. However, awkwardly enough, Monday night I had a really awkward dream about him, to which I think I have a crush on him now, except I'm not entirely sure. I also got to see Mr. S (my AP) a few times on Monday & I was really happy because I had been missing him so much during the summer. I was really depressed Tuesday & Wednesday, so I didn't go to school. I went back today & saw Mr. S a lot again. He actually came into my 5th period class today & it made me really happy because as soon as that door open, I was hoping it'd be him. Earlier this evening, I went to my Open House for about 15 min. & I was glad to see Mr. S Mr. J was also there & I felt awkward being around him because it was the first time I've seen him since my awkward dream about him. In addition, I walked passed Mr. M's room & I waved to him & he smiled & said hey to me. Last time I saw him (Monday), he walked passed me & completely ignored me so thankfully that didn't happen this time. When I was leaving, I turned around to look at Mr. S & he was looking at me. I think he definitely knows how I feel about him.

Anybody else start school yet?

Ellahatesweddings-I know exactly how you feel & I'm truly sorry that you had to move away from your TC. Luckily, you're still young & maybe at this new school, you'll find a teacher you like just as much as you like your TC. You never know -hugs-

[winglessangl]

Or maybe she'll find a boy her age who she likes just as much as, or more than, her TC. Never rule out the possibility.

[Ellahatesweddings]

winglessangl, that's exactly what I'm hoping to do lol. I mean, I think part of the reason why girls (or at least girls my age) fall for someone older, is just because we're often surrounded by guys who are flat-out immature. If I could find someone who doesn't laugh at toilet jokes, and is capable of taking care of himself, that would probably put an end to my crazy crushes on unattainable older men.

[the_entertainer1]

I hate to tell you this, ellehatesweddings, but most (not all, though) guys will always laugh at toilet jokes! Anyway, welcome to our slightly crazy thread!

Your situation is a tough one. I was in the same position as you a few years ago when my TC moved to a different state. I have liked him since 8th grade, and although I have been out of school for a few years, I still think about him quite often. But anyway, as for dealing with the situation, you can do a couple of things:

1) Try to get in contact with him. Just thank him for the recommendation letter and say sorry you didn't say goodbye. You might find you get some closure (if that's what you want).

2) Try not to think about him. This one hasn't really worked too well for me. Although I've gone on dates with guys around my age, I keep comparing them to my TC. I've said this before, but I think that because we often want what we can't have, we tend to 'idolize' (for want of a better word) whatever it is we don't have (in this case, our TCs). Ignore the whole situation. Pretend it never happened. Some people would say that you're young and you'll get over it, but I don't believe age is an excuse for anything.

From my experiences, it does become easier to ignore the whole TC issue if you don't see him for a while, but when you do see him after such a long time, the feelings come back. I know others in this thread who have found that time/distance separation helps them to move on from their TCs, and they end up wondering how they ever liked them in the first place.

If worst comes to worst, you can always come on here to talk if you're missing your TC and need someone to listen.

inlovewithlove, it's good that you're seeing your TCs again. Maybe not so good about the new principal? What are you going to do about Mr S?

Also, I have a little story of my own, since it's been a while since I've had anything to say about a TC. I've been doing my teaching practicum this semester and I have a bit of a crush on one of the teachers at the school He reminds me a lot of my TC, but is probably a little younger and maybe even a bit better looking. I haven't had much interaction with him, though he says hi if we pass each other in the corridors. And he holds doors open (guys my age never do that!) I was kinda watching him in the staff room today and I think he may have seen me a few times (oops!) Legally because I'm over 18 and not a student, something could happen, though I don't actually want it to. It's just fun to look! That's one thing I've noticed, though. Since my friends and I have turned 18, older guys (not really old, just older than us), pay us more attention. What does everyone think? Agree/disagree?

Sorry for such a long post - a few big issues in there!

[inlovewithlove91]

Ellahatesweddings-that's true that you could find somebody your age to like in a way equal to your TC. I agree w/ what the_entertainer1 said about guys though lol. On the other hand, maybe the guy doesn't have to be a TC. If you like older & more mature guys, you could always oogle at an 18 year old or 19 year old. They're still unaccessible, but definitely great to crush on at your age.

the_entertainer1-I'm really happy I get to see them again! My summer was bunk w/ out them. Luckily, I do have crushes on students, but one of them was a friend of mine until recently & I'm kind of still mad at him so I'm trying to get my crush to go away lol. I'm not sure what I'm going to do about Mr.S I think he's known for a while because we always look at each other in a way that implies we both know how I feel about him. I'm not sure how long I'm staying at my school, either until October or March...not sure right now, but do you think I should tell him how I feel before/after I leave? I don't see anything happening between us, but it wouldn't hurt to get it out..especially since if it's in March, then I'll already be 19 years old. And, it turns out, that I DO have a crush on the principal. I can't stand him, but I have a crush on him..it's weird lol. That's really great, though, that you have a new TC! He sounds like quite the gentleman by holding doors open & stuff. I think that older guys are starting to look at you & your friends more because now that you all are older, you appear older & more mature & older guys are attracted to women who look older & mature.

My day was alright regarding TCs. There was a meeting for my grade in the cafeteria & I found out that Mr. S isn't my AP anymore because we got a new AP, so everybody changed their grade level. I don't like the lady who is my AP, but oh well. The meeting or whatever was okay. Mr. S got on the mic & he was like "good morning" & nobody said anything...he said "let's try this again..good morning!" & we all said it back & one girl goes "good to see you!" in a flirty way..ugh lol & Mr. S kind of lectured us about attendance & everything & I felt bad because I miss school A LOT, though I'd be willing to change that for him...not that he'd notice lol. Mr. J also got on the mic & started telling us about his life & when he was in high-school & he was like "I want you all to be happy to be at (insert school name here), I want you to be happy in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years...I want you to grown up, get married, start a family..." & right then, for some reason, I looked at Mr. S..HA! It was pretty interesting. In 2nd period, Mr. M came in to talk to my teacher & when he saw me, he was staring at me while he was talking to her & I tried to act like I wasn't noticing lol.

[Ellahatesweddings]

Although getting in contact with him is tempting, I think it would only further my feelings for him (especially if he responded.)
That being said, I don't think forgetting him altogether would make my situation any better either. Trying to deny any feelings I once had for him (or still do, as the situation currently stands) , or simply ignore them would only make it that much harder to move on. I'm not a good liar, even when I'm lieing to myself
But thank you for your advice! This is probably one of those situations I have to find a way out of on my own. But I'm always glad to have support from other who understand (:

[TUSWCB]

My TC is so embarrasing
Oh, BTW i'm new here
Get ready, this is going to be long!
He came last yr, everyone thought he was a weirdo and creep(he wore pigtails for heaven's sake!(although, not now))(shows typical teacher-hated traits (e.g- Favouritism, does not teach properly)
(he wasn't my teacher though then, he was my friend's teacher). Then i realised i was staring to develop feelings (i never told anyone). Around august-sep, my friend told me that he was going to be our sub-health teacher (lol-i had to pretend i hate him). My feelings mounted. He'd always smile whenever I saw him :P Near end of last year, I told myself that i was going to forget about him.
Beginning of this year, it turns out that he's my teacher (all my work for nothing!!!). Then he started to notice that I liked him. He would avoid using my name in class discussions, frown whenever would see me. (once I went to the staff room, we looked at each other and he then quickly burried his face in work) Despite all of this, once I was in a computer room. We all had our back to him and were doing assigned work. I turned arround and saw him staring at me. (that lasted for 5 seconds before my brain processed what was really happening and i quickly went back to work).
Arround may-june he said he was going to leave (absolutley heartbroken) Guess what the last word I said to him was? : DITTO! (he smiled though )
I'm depressed now

[inlovewithlove91]

I wanted to post about a situation that has been bothering me. On Friday, my teacher, Ms. D, kept flirting back w/ these boys who were flirting w/ her. She's in her 30's, married, & has a kid. The guys were making inappropriate comments & she was laughing it off. She even told one guy he could be her 51st boyfriend. This one guy was acting sexual to another girl & my teacher asked him, in front of the class, "were you molested as a child!?" & everybody (except me) started laughing & she let them. I'm thinking wt*? 2 years ago, this guy called one of my teachers back then "sexy" & she told him that, that's inappropriate & to stop...but this teacher is practically encouraging it. I told my friend I wanted to report this woman, but he's like "If a teacher you liked, was flirting w/ you & somebody told on that teacher, would you be mad?" Yeah I would, however, I can't just let this keep happening because that would be saying it's right that this is happening. A teacher from my school, as a lot of you know, was fired for having a student/teacher relationship & they fired the guy in January, so chances are the relationship went on for many months before they figured it out. My school is just so oblivious to this stuff & had it been my old school, the behavior would've been picked up quick & the teacher would be fired & possibly jailed on the spot.

I told my friend how I can't let this situation go & he told me it's really none of my business. It is my business when there's a husband & child involved. 2 school years ago, I wouldn't have been so against it, but that's also because I was trying to have an affair w/ a married teacher who had a child as well. It kills me to know that I was like that in the past & I don't want anybody having the ability to possibly break up my teacher's family.

[dramajuana]

I told my friend how I can't let this situation go & he told me it's really none of my business. It is my business when there's a husband & child involved.

No... it's still none of your business. You are not her spouse, you are not her child, you are not otherwise her family member. What affects her and her family does not affects you, so no - it is not your business. Report it if you want, but you do not have a duty to do so.

For the record, I'm less worried about the flirting and more worried about the "Were you molested as a child" question.

[Fallen Angel]

winglessangl, that's exactly what I'm hoping to do lol. I mean, I think part of the reason why girls (or at least girls my age) fall for someone older, is just because we're often surrounded by guys who are flat-out immature. If I could find someone who doesn't laugh at toilet jokes, and is capable of taking care of himself, that would probably put an end to my crazy crushes on unattainable older men.

Agreed. I get asked out a lot by guys my age, but I just look at them and say no because they're too immature. Turning all these guys down has lead to the rumour that I'm a lesbian (which you would find out is false spending 15 minutes hearing me talk with my friends). Mr B and Mr H, they cared about me as a person, and would value my opinions on stuff. I could carry a conversation with them far easier than I could most people my age. While I admit they are immature for their respective ages, they still act older than people my age (well, just about) but they can be really mature when they need to be (like in lesson) and even when they sort of flirted with me, I knew they wouldn't take it further (which is more than i can say for most people my age). They have been worried about me at times, example being my reluctance to go home after school. I'm gonna miss them both, but I'm kind of accepting that I'm not gonna see them again.

[ILSMK8]

I had a couple of teacher crushes, I had 6, which I wish I could've been in a relationship with them, they were the most beautiful, attractive teachers/women I've ever seen with my eyes, gosh I wish I would've asked them to marry me

[Thailog]

Man. I have a huge crush on my 10th grade math teacher. She was young and extremely attractive and really nice and she was a great teacher, which means she must be intelligent. God, she's so perfect. She's in my head all the time, I have fantasies about her, I open my yearbook just to look at her picture, I would go out of my way just to walk by her, and I feel extremely envious of her boyfriend. God I want to kill him! (Just kidding I would never do that). I also keep feeling she hates me or has a bad impression of me, even though there's no proof of that. I wonder if she'll ever leave my thoughts and fantasies.

[the_entertainer1]

Well it seems to have died down a bit on this thread. Everyone ok?

I had a weird dream with my TC in it last night - msg me if you want the details. Other than that, I have no news. Does anyone else?

xo

[Fallen Angel]

Schools are just starting again and stuff, sure this thread will be back soon
I know that a girl in my cousins year (year 7) has a crush on Mr B. Me thinks it's her (or she knows I have a crush on him) but I can never get a 1 to 1 girly chat with her to see whats happening for sure (only girl atm I could have a girly chat with - her sisters are a little to young yet).

[lyrabelacqua]

First day back at school. Didn't see my tc once
Given that I don't actually take his subject anymore, and i'm only in half days at the most, i don't think i should be too surprised about this, but i really wanted to see him - i've been off school (and therefore tc-less) since mid-june!

[inlovewithlove91]

I've been in school for over a month now. However, there's really NOT MUCH to report. I don't have any TCs anymore, just my AC Mr. S. He's been playing mind games w/ me even more so this year than he did last year. What I mean is, we'll catch each other's eyes all the time, sometimes I turn around & he's staring at me when I didn't even notice he was around, & he's started smirking at me (much like Mr. R did a year or so back). Mind games I tell ya!

[JustLetGo]

Hey all! I'm happy to see that this thread is (sort of) up and running again...

School started for me about 2 weeks ago, and sadly, this has been the worst TC year yet. At the end of last year, I was really afraid that TC1 would be transfered because they were downsizing his department. I didn't hear anything about it all summer. I went into school about two weeks before it started for a club meet and his mailbox was still set up, but so were one or two of the others that I knew were getting transfered, so I was worried. On the first day of school, I heard a freshman saying to her friend, "Oh my gosh, my [subject] teacher, [TC1] is so hot. It's amazing." So I knew he was back! My locker isn't in his hall anymore, and I only have one class on the floor that he teaches on, so I knew I wouldn't get to see him much, but when I was walking to that one class, I made a point of it to pass by his classroom and he was standing outside. He smiled and waved. I see him far more than I do any other teacher in his hall/on his floor, but still not as much as I used to. I'm a senior this year, and we have to do a lot in conjunction with the faculty as far as special events go, so maybe I'll be able to work with him sometime soon.

As for TC2, I'm not in his class anymore, obviously. Every time I'm in my new class of that subject, I get sad because I miss his teaching so much. When I'm in class in his hall, sometimes I can hear him lecturing down the hallway. I really miss him, not because of my crush, but because he was the only teacher I've ever had who was truly passionate about the subject he taught. I'm glad I got to experience that for a year. On the second day of school, I heard my name called, and he was walking behind me in the hall. He asked me how my summer was, and how my classes were going, etc. The next day my friends visited him after school. I see him all over the school now, and we pass each other a lot and say hello. We went back to see him today. So I guess that's going better than TC1, but I still like TC1 very much more than TC2.

So, I'm not seeing either of them very much. Nothing could possibly be better than last year, when I was in one's class and I tutored for the other, AND saw him all over the school all the time. On top of that, my only student crush in the entire school graduated last year. The guys in my school, are... shall we say physically challenged? And ridiculously immature. That one worthwhile guy, though, is going to the university that I hope to attend next year, so I'll definitely keep in touch with him (having that as my excuse). I guess I'll just have to adjust to everything else. I hate change.

[Fallen Angel]

I had to go down to high school today about getting an exam remarked (1 mark off an A O_O). I saw TC2 a couple of times in the corridor and he stopped me for a chat. Later I saw him again when I went to see my old English teacher, he waved at me from his desk through the window in the middle of telling his class the instructions. I couldn't help but laugh at his classes reaction though because they've only seen the strict teacher side not the friendly human(ish) side i sometimes saw when he was on 'yard duty' and talking to me and my friends.

[OpentilOctober]

Hey, everyone. It's been a while.

Well, I'm in college now. I still think about my TC fairly often, but real life has taken precedence in my mind because I'm so busy. The distance has definitely helped me regain my sanity, even if some feelings do linger.

What I find horribly amusing is that one of my professors looks a little bit like my TC, is about the same age, and teaches the same subject. He is also my advisor. I wouldn't label him a TC (or a PC?), but I do think it's funny that I am haunted by cute teachers of this subject. wt*.

I'm going back to visit my high school either during fall break (which is this month because my school feels the need to be different) or winter break. I was planning on the latter, but I've lately had several dreams in which I'm visiting my high school and it's weirding me out a bit. Only one dream has involved my TC, though.

I hope everyone else is doing well and not feeling too stuck in their current situation. Life always moves on.

[Fallen Angel]

I was playing Truth or Dare with my two closest friends, and one of them, R, asks me whether I like anyone. As I went quiet she starts guessing friends of mine from school. When I obviously deny them she thens says, "it must be a teacher, you were really close to them". I just remain silent, and she eventually guesses Mr B. She says I should go to tell him as I'm over 16 and I don't go to that school anymore. When she finds out I won't tell him, as she's the kind of person who once she has her mind set on something, she'll be dragging me down to my old school to tell him, or alternatively, like during truth or dare, pushing our heads together to get us to kiss (although it would be different when it's an ex-teacher who I've had a crush on for the best part of 3 years - or perhaps longer - rather than a guy who is like a brother to me).

Feels better to get it off my chest though, I'm not exactly hiding it anymore, and if someone finds out, I'm not going to deny it like I used to, but I'm not gonna admit it to them either - although that depends on how close I am to the person asking.

[KamaRati]

Awwww...I missed all u guys...I haven't been back in sooooooo long... new school and all.